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Wait for me

Posted by: on: October 31, 2010

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD. -Psalm 27:14

The Lord has been impressing that verse on me for quite some time now.

When he said on Song of Solomon 8:4, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” He is serious about it, just like He is serious about every thing He commanded us in the bible. But I am a stubborn eager child of His who thinks that I have a better plan. But He is a sovereign GOD who doesn’t have a better plan but the best plan. As I try to pursue it, he did not hesitate on letting me know after every disappointment that I surely can’t win this battle which has been going on for almost 9 months now. Seriously, what was I thinking?

In response to the question, “Should women pursue men?” a youth pastor said, “Don’t chase a man because if you start chasing him, you will have to chase him for the rest of your life.”

Although I was not actively chasing him but in my heart, I was holding on for something that should have not been there in the first place. All the idea of “us” I have formed in my head and thoughts I’ve entertained. Things I initiated instead of waiting for him.

Is that what I want? Do I really want to settle for something like that? That road, certainly leads to misery and heartache.

Although there is no direct answer in the bible on that question (“Should women pursue men?”), God has laid out some pretty clear guidelines on how man and woman should interact with each other. Biblical masculinity and femininity: how we are to carry our God given roles. Not what the world says but what the word of God dictates.

On Genesis, God created the man first (Genesis 2:7) for a reason. He appointed Adam to work on the Garden of Eden and take care of it (Genesis 2:15). Adam is in charged of the garden and it is his duty to supervise the affairs of his God given dominion. It wasn’t after the Lord recognized the need of Adam for a helper that He created the woman from Adam’s rib (Genesis 2:20b-22). In that fashion, the man is to lead and the woman is to submit under the authority of the man (in Eve’s case, Adam is already her husband).

Note: A woman should only submit to her husband alone (Ephesians 5:22 and 1 Peter 3:1A), not to every guy she dates, she likes or she thinks worthy of her submission.

A man is to lead a woman. And if he perfectly knows his God given role, he should not have a hard time figuring that out. He is to actively pursue the woman. He is not passive but initiate things with respect to her purity and protection of her heart.

So ladies, sorry but the whole modern idea on how women should take charge just won’t fly. That is going against the role God has ordained for us to fulfill. No matter how much we like this one guy and thinks he could be the one, if he is not pursuing you, you are setting yourself for a major heartache if you try to control things in your own hand. Besides, if he really is the man God has for you, he would not keep you guessing on what are his intentions towards you. He will let you know, take charge and win you over. It is that simple! Also, by trying to act like men by doing the work for them (being the initiator, asking him out first, etc), we are taking away the chance for these boys to exercise their responsibility to lead. Remember what God said in Proverbs 31: 12 regarding the godly woman, “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

Note: Preach this to myself.

As for my situation, I will continue to lift it up to the Lord. Because surely, I know that God doesn’t want me to settle for second best. As the Lord said on Psalm 27:4, “You have to wait for me, be strong and take heart and wait for me.”

HIS endless love

Posted by: on: October 26, 2010

Go measure the heavens with your span;
go weigh the mountains in the scales;
go take the ocean’s water and calculate each drop;
go count the sand upon the sea’s wide shore;
and when you have accomplished all of this,
then you can tell how much He loves you!
He has loved you long!
He has loved you well!
He will love you forever!

C. H. Spurgeon

So one thing I am completely sure of, His love for me will never change. Nothing I ever do will make Him love me any less.

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. -Hebrew 13:8

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Wait for him

Posted by: on: September 6, 2010

In response to Emman’s beautiful poem.

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD. -Psalm 27:14

When God says wait, He is not trying to be a kill joy. He is rather preparing you for something that is beyond what you can imagine.

Ladies, do not just casually give your heart to every guy you date. Quit dating without a purpose. Look to God first,delight in His ways and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).

Gentlemen, do not take from these women something that is not meant for you. Guard their heart, respect and love them as your sister in Christ.  Put away all your selfish and childish ways and start living like a  real man (1 Corinthians 13: 11).

Wait for him

Wait for the guy that will pursue you for the rest of your life

the kind of guy that reminds you everyday how beautiful you are

The one that knows your worth

and will never ever take you for granted


Wait for the guy who will be your very best friend

The kind of guy who accepts all your flaws and imperfections

The one who knows your vulnerable side

And strives to protect you all the days of his life


Wait for the guy that always makes you feel loved

The kind of guy who wants to show you off to the world

The one that fills the gap between your fingers

And will grow old with you


Wait for the guy who values his family

The kind of guy you will one day share a life with

The one that everybody would love to have

But will assure you that he belongs to you alone


Wait for the guy who will lead you

The kind of guy you will joyfully submit to

The one who continues to be Christ-like each passing day

And always point you towards the Savior


Wait for the guy who puts GOD above all else

The kind of guy who knows why on earth is he here for

The one who has prayed to GOD in order to find you

The guy who will do everything to win you over , the only one you’ll ever have to give your heart

Wait for her

Posted by: on: August 31, 2010

My multi-talented wonderful friend, Mr. Emman Reyes wrote a beautiful beautiful poem and I just have to re-post it here.

Waiting serves a purpose. Good things come for those who wait. When the Lord says wait,listen to Him. He knows better!

Ladies, strive to be a woman of God described in Proverbs 31. Gentlemen, remember that “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” -Proverbs 31:30


WAIT FOR HER

Wait for the girl that you want to pursue for the rest of your life,

the kind of girl that makes everyday seemed like a fairy tale.

The one that brings out the best of who you are,

and never have to prove that you are the best for her.

Wait for the girl who wants to be your best bud;

the kind of girl who understands the imperfect you,

The one that pats you on the back for a job well done;

and shares her shoulder if you need someone to lean on.

Wait for the girl that always makes you smile;

the kind of girl you want to show off to the world,

The one that holds your hand and wipes your tears;

the girl you’ll want to be with until you both get old.

Wait for the girl who respects her family;

the kind of girl that everyone loves to have,

The one everybody knows inside out, yet humbly denies;

The girl who eventually be your family, for the years to come.

Wait for the girl who lets you pursue GOD before anything else;

the kind of girl who knows her purpose in this life and the next.

The one who waits for God to write her lovestory;

and the girl who waits for you too, the only one you’ll ever have to love.

In His arms

Posted by: on: July 5, 2010

My relationship with Him has been up and down lately. It has been a crazy roller coaster ride. I just could not be more thankful that I have a lover, a savior and a God that never gives up and leave you during the most unloveable moments of your life.

He is forever faithful and loving.

Ever present, ever living and unchanging…

By His mercy and grace, He has kept me in His arms. Letting me wonder and stumble here and there but always ready to pull me back in His arms when the going gets tough and rough.

I have remained in His love because of His sovereign decree in my life.

I know that I could never thank Him enough. Nor I could love Him enough.

But I will try my best till my last breathe to keep defying sins and this world so I can pursue Him and put Him above all else. Even if that means I have to die to myself every day of my life. I am completely aware that I can’t do this on my own and I acknowledge my total dependence on Him to carry out this desire.

Jesus said in Matthew 22:37, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. “

My Lord and King, point my heart, my soul, my desire and all of my affections to you and you alone. Incline my soul to long for no one else but you. May you always be in my mind,in my thoughts and in my heart.

When God says no

Posted by: on: April 29, 2010

God never cease to amaze me every time He is doing some major work on me. Especially when He is testing my faith and endurance.

I am so used on having things my way and every thing coming through the way I wanted them to be. Relationship wise, if I want it then I go after it and get it.

But I have to learn to be patient. To wait. Because sometimes, the answer is not always a yes.

I have to write The perfect match to convict my stubborn heart. I knew that it was God’s voice telling me to stop trying and start allowing Him to show me how it should be done.

That when He says no, just like Jesus Christ, I should listen and obediently follow Him. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD on Isaiah 55:8. He knows better than I do. Who do I think I am trying to take control? Thinking maybe He could use a little help from me in accomplishing His plans. What a foolish way of thinking! “People ruin their lives by their own foolishness…” -Proverbs 19:3

He clearly said on Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

So who am I kidding? God is a sovereign God. He is in control of every thing. Yes, everything! Before I was born, He already knows the path and direction my life will take. He has already planned that out. My career, the friends I am going to have, the tears I will shed, the people that will come in my life, when I will fall in love and when will the right guy comes along.

Just because there was this wonderful person that seem to be the right one doesn’t mean I could go ahead and dive straight into it. I still am a work in progress. I still have a lot to learn. I still have a lot of maturing to do. I still am not ready. And I am re-learning all of these things at the moment because He said no.

So I let it go, leave it all to God. Trust Him. Wait.

Just because lips have met doesn’t mean hearts have joined. And just because two bodies are drawn to each other doesn’t mean two people are right for each other. A physical relationship doesn’t equal love.
-Joshua Harris in I Kissed Dating Goodbye

“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”
– Songs of Solomon 8:4

The perfect match

Posted by: on: April 24, 2010

The coming together of a godly woman and a godly man equals a match made in heaven.

As cliche as it may sound but two separate individuals who are so in love in the Lord and has come together as one is the ultimate love story that display’s God sovereignty as the author of true love and creator of romance.

Agape. The highest and purest form of love. The Father’s love. Love came from God. Love is God. God is love.

There is nothing more beautiful than to see two selfless people build a life together. Being selfless means you are constantly looking out for the good of the other person and putting the other person’s needs above your own.

Selfless woman + Selfless man = A definition of genuine love.

“Genuine love was never a two-way street. It has always been a single road leading to the path of happiness of the one you love; not even asking to be love back. It’s the selflessness that makes it real. Otherwise, you’re only loving at the common place of romantic sense – the level enjoyed by mediocrity.”

As human, we tend to be selfish and in order for us to learn to be selfless, we need to look towards our Savior Jesus Christ. He has given us the perfect example on what selfless love is like when He gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God -Ephesians 5:2

The best people to be in a relationship are those that don’t need each other. They are not out there trying to look for a person to fill the void in their life, to make them feel whole and to complete them. They have already found their self worth through God. They are already complete, secure in Him and content in His love.

HE is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in HIM.                -John Piper

So imagine two different lives who are passionately pursuing God and  on God’s perfect timing was brought together to come worship the Lord as one. What a perfect match would that be.

A day of love

Posted by: on: February 14, 2010

In LOVE,you find peace and comfort that gives you the sense of security, contentment and happiness…like finding a resting place–you’re finally home.

“We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting place in ourselves for those who love us.”

Before we were born,there was someone who already knew every fiber of our being, who have loved us even before we know Him.

“God poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit,whom he has given us.” -Romans 5:5

There is unspeakable comfort-the sort of comfort that energizes,be it said,not enervates-in knowing that GOD is constantly taking knowledge of me in love and watching over me for my good.There is a tremendous relief in knowing that HIS LOVE to me is utterly realistic, based at every point on prior knowledge of the worst about me–Knowing God by JI Packer

That God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. -Romans 5:8

That is the very reason why I don’t think there is a need to feel lonely if you are single  and don’t have a special someone this Valentine’s day. Because the truth is, you have never been alone. GOD have poured out and demonstrated to us already the greatest love you could possibly find. And He didn’t just stop there,He blessed us with amazing people who have made and making life worthwhile here on earth. Look around you-your mom,your dad,your brother,your sister,your relatives, your friends, best of friends and even strangers. You’ve got so much love in you.

With that said, I can joyfully say that because I have an amazing God who love me and blessed me with a family and church family that warms my heart, I never have to worry about being single on this Valentine’s day, even next year, when I am 25 or until the age God wants me to be single.

After all,I’ve always had a “valentine” not just for this one day of the year but throughout the season of my life. My ultimate lover,king and Lord. In Him,I have  peace and comfort. His presence gives me contentment and happiness. Right at His arms, I am deeply loved–I am home.

So whether you are single or taken, don’t just give love to that special someone of yours, give love to everyone on this Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is not just for couples, it’s meant for everyone.

Happy Hearts Day! May God bless you heart ♥♥♥

Let Go & Let God?

Posted by: on: October 18, 2009

Really..what does that mean? To Let Go & Let God??

Letting go hasn’t always been an easy concept for me to easily grasp, especially being the controlling person that I am. It’s a hard thing to hand over the reigns and allow all your burdens and worries to be lifted off of you completely in faith. Sometimes I may understand the idea with my head but not wholly with my heart. Whatever the situation may be, disappointments, breakups, let downs, struggles…we’re called to trust in the Lord right?? But why does it seem that some situations just hurt so much during that process?

I think that’s where I’ve got it all wrong from the get go. Giving it all up to God doesn’t always mean that He’s going to stop you from falling but he will be there when you hit the ground just like He’s been there from the very beginning. Sometimes we need to feel the fall before he can break our fall or else we’ll never know how it feels to really need Him. When we feel the effects of life’s let downs , it doesn’t mean that God let us go, He’s just teaching us how to get back up in deep need of Him. It’s going to be tough, it’s going to be a pain that you may think that you’ll never get through. But we aren’t alone if we’ve got the greatest King as our Lord & Savior in our hearts. Because what may seem overwhelming at the time, God is already overcoming in your life.  He allows us to go through the hurts, pains & dissapointment not to punish us but to test our faith. To test if we’re really living for Him or pursing other things in our lives by voicing empty words that we can’t back up with our actions.

When we say we wanna live completely for Him, we should really examine ourselves before making a commitment like that. Because the minute that one thing your pursuing gets taken away, you’re bound to get a rude awakening of what’s really important in your life. He is a Jealous God and in order for us to experience ALL of Him we have to offer Him ALL of us. The love He offers us is unconditional and isn’t determined by our status, our looks, what kind of car we drive, or whether we memorize the Bible front and back. There’s no way we can ever buy His love or repay Him but accept it as a gift that we are so undeserving of.

The cracks and bruises in our heart that seem so unfixable and far from restoration can be used for His glory. Our brokeness and sadness can turn into worshipping a God who fills the emptiness in our lives. The relationships and arguments that could be far from mending could ultimately be renewed through Him. The Lord understands us & created us, He knows we’re humans, He’s not aloof of our weaknesses, He didn’t create us to be perfect beings otherwise we wouldn’t have a need for such a flawless Savior.

Come to Him in all your rawness, hurts, angers and feelings . The more we hold onto them and harbor them in our hearts, it can lead to things that aren’t pleasing to Him and eventually distance you from His grace in your life. You’re going to want to scream, it’s going to sting, tears are going to flow endlessly but  I find so much peace in knowing that His love for me is endless. His love doesn’t have a beginning or an end. He knew me before I was in my mother’s womb. I’m not this little thing that He could care less for, He knows me by name.  My Father in heaven is actively working in my life and there is a purpose and reason to all the unknowns and ‘dot dot dots’

So this is how I see it ..

How am I going to feel and completely experience His power in my life if I’m still grabbing hold onto the ledge?

We have to fall. He’s molding us, and training us daily to become men & women after His heart. So…

Let it Go

&

Let Him

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 17For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

2 Corinthians 4:16-1

It’s the least that I can do

Posted by: on: October 2, 2009

Exactly what my heart desires..

Lord I really don’t know how to write a song

I’m not always eloquent, sometimes I get it wrong

But the thing You’ve doing in me I can’t describe

What a fool I’d be if I chose to hide
 this transformation, new motivation

Thought that we were close, I’ve known You all this time

But I was just living life my way, just getting by

Thought that if I’d do a good deed or two

That’d be enough to please You

I kept the parts I wanted to, and missed out on the real You

Now with every step and every breath

I give it all, hold nothing back

With all I am, this is my choice, to live to worship You

So with all my heart, my soul, my mind

I’ll love You, leave it all behind

To live my life in awe of You is the least that I can do

I’ve held on so long to all my hopes and dreams

While You were asking me to place them all at Your feet

Let my praise be more than a song I’ll sing for You

Let me change all my ways in response to You

I’ve lived for myself, Lord I need Your help

Not I who lives, but You

For You are worthy of all honor

(And You) deserve the sacrifice I’ll give

You’ve touched my heart and now I see
 what it is You want from me

So I’ll lose the things that hold me
 back so You can set me free


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